Beware of the reaction that takes hold and suffocates connection. You will realize this after it happens. You fight because your not being heard. Instead just say your peace then end it. If they still want to say theirs let them, or leave. You have to give up, it making sense. You have to give up wanting them to feel better about the interaction. Let them be and let them figure it out for themselves. Or not. But do not put any more logs on the fire.